Hind ♥

Last night I recieved a Ramadan text message from my sister's friend (happens to be our neighbour also), which she concluded with "Um Flan AlFlani".
I thought at first she just forwarded it and didn't notice the name but then the realization hit me, it was her son's name and husband's last name so I asked my sister what the hell was that about and she said she's been acting funny since she got married a year ago and that she kind of lost touch with them because she says she's now married and too busy to make calls and she accuses them of not calling and asking for her and blah blah. The usual.

Okay seriously, maybe that's nothing and she's just a proud and happy wife and mum, I'm not judging or anything, but it triggered me to write what you're about to read now (either that or the book I'm reading now has just kicked in :p), why, why is it that a girl's sacred goal in this life is to get married?

And why, when a girl gets married, she acts like she's had it all, and looks at us, poor single girls, with pity? And believe me, this species still exists.

The thing is, they don't seem to understand marriage the right way.. I'd love to get married someday, and soon, I really don't mind, regardless of my extreme incapability of being a wife. But my idea of marriage is to have a partner, a best friend. I want someone to share everything with, someone who encourages me to step up and tells me sky's the limit, who gets to know the real me, and very most importantly, who loves me. Not just someone who I have his childern and clean his house and be a mere wife/nanny/maid combo to him, who doesn't know how many beauty marks I have on my face and that I think Obama is attractive (he is.).

Back to our subject, I've seen many girls who get married and let out a huge sigh of relief "phew, I made it!" the sooner the better, the more kids the better, the more control over her husband the better (you must make your husband like a ring on your finger), whether they get along or not, she just have to remain married even if she's not happy and hurting inside and even if he turns out to be a druggy jerk. And she forgets all about her previous life, her friends, goals and dreams, even her education and career (a girl who's done 6 years of Medical school and marrying a guy who doesn't want her to work.. come on!!) and devote herself to her prince not-so-charming. And there are fathers who grab the guy who comes asking for their daughter's hand the second he sets foot in their house and run to the ma'thoon (or so they wish :p) like it doesn't matter if he's a drunken unemployed guy, or if he's already married, because God forbid, his daughter could turn 23 still single!

I'm not talking out of a personal experience, because I'm blessed with the most understanding parents who would never think that way. But I've been observing people I know personally, and not personally, and hearing people stories for years, and it's one of those topics that hit my "On" button and get me so excited.

Moral to the story, if you girls get married, keep your own name.